When we speak to others about ideas and respond to their plans, we should never come across as arrogant or “know-it-alls”. It often happens without intending to do so.
When we do speak, keep these pieces in mind:
1. Speak confidently, and not with an arrogant tone. No one will listen if spoken down to.
2. Emphasize positives. If someone did something well – acknowledge it. If something didn’t go well, share how you would like to see the outcome improved – and let them know you believe they can do it- only if you feel they’re capable. If you find they may need help, add someone with the right strengths and share why they could be helpful.
3. Listen, listen, listen. Don’t only ask how things are going when you make time. Keep the door open for when questions and ideas pop up. Embrace the opportunity to demonstrate to your team personalities of a great leader. Be available and develop your teams.
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Have you ever caught up with a family member or friend you haven’t seen in months or years? Have they ever said, “you’ve lost alot of weight” or maybe when you were younger, “I can’t believe how much taller you are!”
Those you see everyday likely didn’t even notice. Now imagine what they noticed is how you’ve grown personally or professionally and the same thing happens.
Those who haven’t seen you are impressed and those you see everyday know you to be a go-getter and goal setter. How awesome would that feel?
When I played high school football, I had a coach tell me to block him. He was a big man, and I was a freshman, but I had on my pads and understood when the coach said, Come at me!”, you put in 110%. When I ran at him, he turned ready to block me, but he didn’t. At the last minute he stood up and kicked me right between the legs. Thank you God that I had all my gear on that day.
I could have just walked away from the sport that day, but that is boy how I was raised and was not the intent of the coach. It was about overcoming and persevering. “When the day is over, I may lose a battle but not the war.”
It would have been easy to quit or complain, and trust me, I’m sure I wanted too. That’s not how we move forward though. When we’re knocked down, here are the three things to do:
1. Focus on what you just learned. Trust me, I never went on the practice field without all my gear. Don’t make the same mistake twice.
2. Who else is there to support me during trials? We all have moments when we just want to vent. You don’t need someone to tell you to give up. You need someone to tell you they hear you, now get your ass up and get back to it.
3. Focus on the end goal. Nuff said.
There is no time like now for you to go for what you want. Go get it!!